Our intention was not to lead a small group or even be a part of one. But it all started when my husband and I taught a series on Marriage in our Sunday School Class.
After 2 years of gender-based meetings, we decided to merge our individual groups and meet as couples. We have been going through struggles in our walk with Christ, job losses, new jobs, moves, births, deaths of parents, everyday ordinary things, marriage issues and personal struggles with sin. We shared our past struggles and victories with each other. We have been there to cry, pray, study the Word together, serve together and rejoice with each other. We learn from each other and we are there to hold each other accountable. We found ourselves being involved in each others lives on a much deeper level. Our responsibility is to share what God has done in our lives with others.
Let me get personal: I want to be careful not to paint a perfect picture of 5 couples getting together and that everything is wonderful. We have issues with commitment. I don’t know what the answer is to fix this problem, because the bottom line is that it is an individual heart issue. It is the same problem that makes people only come to church when they feel like it. A friend of mine used to tell his kids that there are only two times that you need to go to church, when you feel like it and when you don’t. I love that! The truth is that we let things get in our way of doing what we know God wants us to do, whether it is to attend weekly Worship, read His Word or to be faithful in your commitment to your Small Group. We are all selfish and struggle with our own desires to do our own thing.
The answer is to stop looking at ourselves and focus on Jesus. It is not about us, it is about allowing God to use us, for His purpose. Our journey here on this Earth as Christ followers is to use this vapor of a life to glorify Him, to share with others what He has done and to let the gentle workings of His Holy Spirit make us more like His precious Son everyday. While we are all on this journey with our group, we just keep on keeping on. We do have a strong base of 6 and when the others come, we love them, embrace them and we are all still there for them. Part of what I have learned as a leader through this struggle is being able to realize that everyone is in a different place on their journey. Not everyone feels like I do. As a leader I have to be able to let go of my expectations of what commitment means to me and that I think it should mean the same to you. We have had to learn to accept that and to understand that God is still doing something. Just because I can’t see it or don’t understand it, does not mean that He is not working. God is always working, and sometimes He uses the small community of a group of people to do it.
“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Prov. 27:17.